What you must know before moving in for the first kiss

By Jesse Allen

Learning kissing tips is something everyone should do. The first kiss is what most women look at when trying to determine whether or not you are a good lover. If you cannot kiss, chances are you are lousy in bed, and this is unacceptable to women.

I have a lot of female friends and let me tell you, whenever they first kiss man the first thing they do is tell everyone they know how it was. One of the first questions asked to a woman after a date (sometimes the first question) is: “So, did you kiss?” If the answer is yes, it is almost always followed by “What it good?”

You may have taken my advice on how to attract, approach, and then seduce women, but unless you fully understand my kissing advice , you will have a hard time keeping any woman. That is if you don’t know how to kiss already, of course. Knowing how most men think I am assuming that you believe you already know how to kiss girls properly. From what I’ve heard through my female friends, however, chances are you do not know everything.

Everything you do when kissing a girl, especially for the first time, will have her re-evaluating any pre-judgments she may have had about you. You could give the first impression that you are confident, sensual, and smart, but if you give her a bad kissing experience she will immediately associate a new set of beliefs to you.

Women want to be with a man who can make them feel as though they are the sexiest woman alive, and this cannot be accomplished if you cannot kiss. She will also think you don’t give a damn because excellent kissing advice is everywhere and finding effective kissing tips is very easily found - if you look for it.

Learning how to kiss girls goes far deeper than applying a bunch of kissing tips on her, though. In order to blow any woman away with your lips you have got to know when and how to execute those kissing tips . The mood and timing play a major factor and if not carefully executed it won’t matter whether you are a kissing master because she cannot fully enjoy it!

Men are so much different than women and when it comes to kissing, they are TOTALLY different. A man will enjoy any kiss a woman he is interested gives him, even if it’s a bad kiss. I have slept with many girls who couldn’t kiss worth a damn because we men are animals. Plus, most men, along with myself, believe they can turn almost any woman into the kisser or lover they desire.

Women, on the other hand, are far more picky. If they are not impressed or are repulsed by the way a man kisses her for the first time, chances are she will never get into a sexual relationship with them. Women want a man who knows what he’s doing and believe they should never have to teach him about kissing. After all, in a woman’s mind a bad kisser is a man who’s not sensual - and sensuality, to a woman, cannot be taught.

Knowing what to do before the first kiss, or any kiss for that matter, can make even a bad kiss seem pleasurable. That said, a kiss is not just a physical action, it is an experience. An experience that depends on the process and procedures prior to the physical act.

Building Anticipation

One of my favorite kissing tips I have used over the years is building anticipation. If you are receiving positive signals from a girl and are almost 100% sure she would like you to kiss her, hold off. Anticipation will build tension and making her wait for that first kiss will get her hot juices flowing. Everything good in life is worth waiting for, and a first kiss is no exception.

There are so many things a man has to do before going in for a kiss and this article will give you some very valuable kissing advice that will blow her socks off. The art of kissing, especially when kissing a woman, has been studied and researched so much that we have a very good understanding of what separates a good kiss from a bad kiss.

Be Kissable

A man has got to be kissable if he wants any woman to crave his lips against hers. The appearance of your lips is crucial. Make sure they are moist, soft, silky, and smooth. Do you know how many men I have seen out on a date with dry, chapped, and cracked lips? What the hell are they thinking? I don’t care how attractive you are, if you’re lips are disgusting no woman will want to kiss you. So use lip balm before you go out with a woman. Lip balm works wonders and I cannot recommend its use enough. You can limit its use only for dates and while meeting women, but if you don’t mind building somewhat of a dependence on the stuff, use it all the time!

Prevent Or Mask Bad Breath

So you’ve got nice lips already, do you? Okay, there are some of us who do, but there is something else you should always ask yourself: “How does my breath smell?” People with bad breath rarely know that they have it, so even if you brush your teeth a thousand times a day you should always bring breath mints when you are with a woman you want to kiss. Brushing your teeth does not eliminate halitosis (bad breath) because teeth are not the culprit that cause bad breath.

Bad breath can be caused by anything from your diet to genetics, and the easiest and most effective way to defeat it is by using breath mints. Also, drink a lot of water. Staying hydrated will prevent your mouth from getting dry, and a dry mouth smells a lot worse than a moist one. This kissing advice must be followed always because you could be doing everything else right, but if your breath smells, sayonara. You fail. Women are very sensitive to smells and bad breath will have them turning away and running out the door faster than a bad out of hell.

Be Sure She Is Ready To Be Kissed

Even if you have the nicest teeth and freshest smelling breath, you have to know for sure that she is ready to be kissed. I go into great detail on reading female body language and signals women send so I recommend you become familiar with them because nothing is as embarrassing as being turned away from a kiss. Women send signals all the time and it is really easy to know if they are kissable.

If you think a woman is sending signals that she can be kissed, make sure the mood and timing are right. Don’t rush into a kiss, especially first kisses, even you’re receiving positive vibes. Like I said earlier, building anticipation is very effective and picking the right moment will make the kiss that much more special. When is the right time? That is something you will have to figure out on your own. Every woman is different so making your own judgment is important and something no kissing coach can teach. We can set you up and help you execute, but it is ultimately up to you to decide if the time is right.

Move In For The Kiss

Once you think the time is right, make your approach and move in for the kiss. Always make sure the girl is paying attention when you move in because surprising her will freak her out. She wouldn’t have time to enjoy the kiss because she isn’t expecting it. This is the final few seconds of anticipation, when your eyes are locked and nothing is being said. She will get excited and enjoy the kiss a lot more than if a kiss is taken from her.

Your approach must be slow and smooth. Smile and take this chance while you are close to enjoy her smell. Don’t go directly for the lips, take a detour and hover her face while gently skimming your lips along her cheeks and then slowly move toward her mouth. Pull back and look into her eyes again. While moving in be sure to close your eyes the moment before your lips touch. Wandering eyes while moving in closer will leave her thinking you are examining her imperfections and keeping your eyes open during a kiss will freak her out. There have been a few times when I caught a woman with her eyes open and let me tell you, there is nothing weirder. I’m sure that women find it even more bizarre.

Be Gentle

The first kiss must be gentle. You don’t want to be aggressive and press your lips too hard on her. The key is to meet her lips, and for crying out loud, don’t be one of those guys who forces his tongue down a woman’s throat. A french kiss on your first attempt will make you seem over-eager and slimy. Women remember the first kiss and making it as gentle, sensual, and romantic as possible will make the kiss memorable.

After meeting her lips for a few seconds, pull away and look into her eyes some more. Notice if she is enjoying the kiss and if she doesn’t move in herself within a couple of seconds (which happens most of the time), kiss her again. This time a little longer while remaining gentle and sensual.

Enjoy Her Lips And The Kiss

Give the woman you are kissing the impression that just kissing her is enjoyable enough. Don’t start petting her inner thigh or her breasts during the first few kisses or she’ll think you’re just trying to get laid. Take time to enjoy the kiss and don’t rush. Gently rub your lips against hers as though you are enjoying every last contour. Don’t just lock your lips, you want to feel every bit of her lips. Move from upper lip to lower lip and vice versa. Do whatever you can that says: “I don’t want to miss even a millimeter of your lips.”

Relax And Breathe

Relax and make sure you are breathing. Breathing, though second nature, is very easily forgotten in many activities. Not that you’ll end up suffocating if you’re into a kiss too much, but it is very common for people to lose their breath while kissing and making silly sounds when their bodies involuntarily compensate for the lack of oxygen.

Touch Her While Kissing

One of the most effective kissing tips you will ever read has nothing to do with your lips. Touching a woman the right way is kissing advice you must not overlook. Men can be turned on by a simple kiss, but women need a lot more. Using your hands by touching and/or cupping her face will show that you are attracted to her and allow her to feel attractive. Gently touch the outer part of her arms or hold her hands. Run your hands through her hair. Just remember to keep it innocent and not to feel her up.

Don’t Just Kiss Her Lips

After kissing her lips and determining that she is enjoying it, move on to other parts of the face. The side of her mouth, cheeks, temple, forehead, and anywhere else on her face . Women want to feel beautiful and if you gently kiss different parts of her face, she will feel as though you cannot get enough of her entire face. Don’t overdo it though - you are not a dog.

Say Sweet Nothings

You can say sweet things to a woman before, during, and after a kiss. Tell her that you’ve had a crush on her for a while and were looking forward to kissing her. Comment on the softness of her lips and how pleasant she smells. Make her feel as though she is the most attractive woman you’ve ever kissed and I promise you she will open up even more and be comfortable in progressing into french kissing or even sex. Learning how to french kiss deserves its own kissing advice article so I won’t get into it here. Just know that comfort level is important in getting the most out of a kissing session.

The kissing tips I’ve outlined above work brilliantly. I give kissing advice to a lot of men and never have any of them been disappointed. I know that these tips on how to kiss girls will help and hope that you enjoy ever last minute while your lips are touching hers.